SMART IS
OVERRATED.
IQ measures your processing power. EQ measures your ability to not be a jerk. Guess which one matters more in real life?
What makes up EQ?
It's not just "being nice." It's a complex system of 4 skills.
Self-Awareness
Knowing what you feel while you feel it. Recognizing that you are "hangry," not actually mad at your boss.
Self-Management
The ability to pause. Choosing not to send that angry email at 2 AM.
Social Awareness
Reading the room. Understanding that your joke didn't land and it's time to stop talking.
Relationships
Using awareness to manage interactions successfully. Conflict resolution and influence.
The "Success" Equation
For decades, we thought IQ was everything. But data shows that people with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70% of the time. Why? Because of EQ.
Signs of Low EQ:
- ❌ Gets stressed easily.
- ❌ Holds grudges forever.
- ❌ Quickly makes assumptions.
- ❌ Feels "misunderstood" often.
- ❌ Blames others for their emotions.
The "Traffic Light" Check
Next time you feel a strong emotion, which light are you?
RED LIGHT
STOP
"I am furious. If I speak now, I will destroy this relationship."
YELLOW LIGHT
THINK
"I am annoyed. Why? Is it them, or am I just tired?"
GREEN LIGHT
GO
"I understand my feelings. I can communicate this clearly now."